What’s this about bringing home the bacon?Dear Friends Who Were Shocked I Didn’t Call Someone Out on Chauvinist Crap,
Y’all (rightfully) pointed out that it was not like me to stay quiet when someone says something backwards or dumb. I defended myself in this instance saying that the fellow in question was about 90 and deaf, and I’m a new member of the organization.
Still.
At the very least, I should have just made a joke about it right then and there.
But here’s a followup:
I had lunch yesterday with the female past president who was sitting next to our elderly subject when he made the comment. She was the first female member and first female president of this organization. And, in fact, some members left the organization when she joined. Granted, this was 30 years ago.
I shared with her my mortification. She said she was shocked too, as this man has always been a huge supporter of women in the club, herself included.
We talked a while. In short, our 94-year-old friend may have some cognitive decline that caused his commentary.
So.
Saying something wouldn’t have made a difference. And I know everyone else at the table felt the same way I did, so no education needed there.
But still, I’ve learned a valuable lesson.
See/hear something: Say something — anything!
It’s a good reminder for everyone: Things won’t change with silence.
Yours sincerely,
Beth
Observe and report 
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