Dear Mom of College Friend (and anyone else who shared this meme),
Most of the time, I scroll on past all the crazy things you post. I was taught to respect my elders, so I don’t want to call you out.
But I have thoughts about this meme.
- I wrote a whole post about false equivalency. Please read it.
- I know that the meme is comparing these two because of their beef, but Cardi B is an entertainer. Candace Owens is not.
- It is possible that young girls can idolize both, and also various other public figures as well as people in their own lives.
- We need to normalize black and brown people in positions of power. It shouldn’t be EITHER Cardi B OR Candace Owens.
- Why is this a left/right thing?
I know you and loads of your kind (aka white Boomers) are clutching your pearls over Cardi B’s Grammy performance and the song in general.
I have thoughts about that too:
- I bet you didn’t even watch. Your friends and people on chosen news outlets (i.e., Owens) told you that you should be wound up.
- If you did watch and were offended, you could have turned it off.
- It should not be considered offensive to celebrate female sexuality. (I got into it at Christmas over “WAP” vs. “Baby It’s Cold Outside.”)
All of this is so silly to me. All my life, I’ve heard older people lose their minds about music, video games, books and whatnot having a negative impact on children.
You know who should be worried about children? Their parents. Period.
I’m far from perfect, but I do frankly address topics like sex, drugs, etc., with my boys. I’d rather they hear the truth from me, as uncomfortable as it may be for them and for me.
So stop worrying about what other people and their children are/are not doing, and mind your own business.
Also, perhaps consider getting out of the meme game.
Sincerely,
Your daughter’s friend
*People actually complained to the FCC about the performance. Get a grip! It’s the Grammys. What do you expect? Everyone knew Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion were going to perform. Just change the channel if you don’t like it.
Observe and report 
OK, I’m a boomer and I’m honestly kind of tired of a whole LOT of us being lumped into one group. My generation did a lot to fight hypocrisy in this culture, as did the one before us (Henry Miller, et al.) It’s not a generational thing. It’s more than that, IMO.
I think WAP is funny, but not particularly edgy. I thought the performance was ugly. These are aesthetic not moral determinations. Still, I saw it as the logical progression from Hair (“Sodomy, Fellatio, Cunnilingus, Pederasty, Father, why do these words sound so nasty?”) MY church threw me out for playing that album during a youth group meeting. We were all graduating seniors, heading out into the world where Hair and many other things were “lurking”. I felt a church group (I was the president) was the place to learn about these things and talk them over. OH WELL. Never went back. Hypocrisy…
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You’re right. I did make a generalization. I’m sorry. There are many progressive, open-minded exceptions like you.
I performed in “Hair” in college. It’s always seemed so dumb to me for people to get so upset about anything related to sex. But violence? AOK, apparently.
It’s ALWAYS important to learn and talk. And yes, I thought church would be a good place for that.
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See? You performed Hair in college. It seems to be an incremental opening. When I watched the performance of WAP my first thought was, “So what’s the big deal?” but I don’t think I’m “normal.”
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Haha! What’s “normal” anyway?
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Right?
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